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What do I say ALL the time?

They say you teach what you LOVE. (not sure if 'they' really say that, BUT I SAID it) They say that the type of people you serve are the ones that you learned the most from. You've been there.  You know the struggles, the desires, the feelings, the passion that is in THE thing you help with.  It's what you're interested in, it's what you would give time to for free, it's the thing that you keeps you curious and leaning in. It's what gets you all jazzed up, feelin' alive, and purposeful/connected. Sit for a second and think a few people, places, items, jobs, etc. that do this for you.  List them out in your journal.  How many of them correlate to the people you serve right now?  How many correlate to the 'work' you do?  How many of them do you see, do, feel, and enjoy most days of the week? OR just maybe who you serve- "your work' -has nothing to do with your job.   I hope they showed up a ton in your life.  I hope that there's some direct links to what you love, who you serve, and your 'work', and what you do. I hope that even if there's not a bunch that there's a few. AND, what if there's not a bunch? Well, then, my lovely one, you have some rearranging to do. How can you incorporate more of the things you love and 'your work' into your life, into your dream? I recently realized that I was set on a path to keep doing what I was doing FOREVER.  And a BIG 'HEC NO!' followed. So, I sat with this.  And then I sat with, "Well, what can I do instead?"  And then I sat with, "Okay, I can do that, but how [...]

When LIFE gets in the way of the DREAM

Many of my clients are women who are entrepreneurs or want to be, therefore, many still have their 'day jobs.'  Many have 'day jobs' and also have a rich, beautiful, & fulfilling life. Many have the 'day job' & just a ho-hum life that feels like it is on a loop.  Wake up, hurry to get ready for work, do work, come home, eat dinner, watch Netflix, have a glass of wine to celebrate your hard work, & then go to bed...and then wake up & do it again.  [HINT: everyone's life is pretty much on a loop, so what's different?] How you show up to WHATEVER your LIFE is IS the thing!  You can have the most boring, shitty job & still be frickin' happy.  You can have the most fun, fabulous, & enviable job & still be bored, sad, frustrated, & hate your life. Showing up is the thing.  For the everyday. For the priorities. For the present. AND THEN THERE'S THE BIG DREAM -- THE NEXT THING -- THE LIFE YOU DESIRE You may have one BIG dream or maybe you have your dreams in many areas of your life. (I recommend both)  So, you might have a health dream, a relationship/family dream, a home dream, a travel dream, a financial dream, a shoe dream, or a career dream.  These are all parts of your life.  You may have a few you are focusing on right now with the others in the back of your mind. GREAT, right? "So, tell me what I don't already know Diana?"  That's what you're asking right about now, yes? What I want to tell you is that sometimes you have the BIG dream--you even know in DETAIL what it looks like, feels like, smells like--and then one day you realize you are not going to get there doing your [...]

I did it! I changed my Life.

I did it! It's been awhile since you all have heard from me, yes?  I'll get into the reasons why on that in a minute, but first I want you to celebrate with me. I DID IT!!!!! I changed my life. Last year was full of changes for me and that's a BIG part of why you haven't heard from me.  I took a new position at the old 9-to-5 J-O-B and it left me very little time and energy to put to my business.  It was different hours and more responsibility. It was closer to home, which I loved, but it was robbing me of the juice I needed to devote to this project. It was a 'Wheel of Fortune' year for me (according to the Tarot Growth Cycle).  In a Wheel of Fortune year there can be many changes.  So, that happened.  I changed jobs and location...and I thought that was the change of the year...BUT NO! There was more change to come. I realized a few months after the job change that I had set myself on a path to do that work forever. WAIT! WHAAAT????  Oh no, no.  That's not my dream.  That's not the plan. Since starting this business of spiritual coaching and healing I have always talked about "Doing Your BIG Work" "Following Your Inner Drop" and "Doing the BIG Scary Thing." Well, it is time for me to put my money where my mouth is, right? So- it got me to thinking...'Di, what is THE plan then?  How are we going to get to the dream, the passion, the life you desire????'   When these questions came up it made me realize how stuck I was. How I let my life slide into the normal day-to-day, the busy-ness of modern life...I had let go [...]

just a dust bunny? Or something more?

I love words. I especially love the exploration of words of a different language. What other people call things is intriguing to me. Do you all have this fascination as well? Comment below with your favorite word or phrase from another language. Dust bunnies. You know those little bits of yuck...hair, dust, skin flakes (yikes!) and goodness knows what else, gathering under beds and in dark corners. What a constant nuisance. Can't someone event a dust bunny buster?  Or declare a no gathering zone? I'd love it. Spring is just about here, so Spring Cleaning is on my mind. I am going to dig in and prep and enliven my home for the coming of the light and beauty that the newness Spring brings. There will be dusting, vacuuming, scrubbing, cleaning....and then clearing, smudging, and blessing the energy of the house. Yes, sage will be involved, as well as salt, fire, and water. So, what do you think they call dust bunnies in other places? Here's some info from Wikipedia: In Danish they are called "nullermænd" ("nuller-" from the verb "nulre", meaning to move something between one's fingers, and "-mænd" meaning "men") In Finnish they are called "villakoira" (meaning: wool dog) after the language's nickname for the actual dog breed poodle In French they are called "moutons" (meaning: sheep) In German they are called "Wollmäuse" (meaning: wool mice) In Hungarian they are called "porcica" (meaning: dust cat) In Norwegian they are called "hybelkaniner" (meaning: "lodging bunnies") In Polish they are called "koty" (meaning: cats) In Portuguese they are called "cotão". The Scots word is "oose" In Spanish they are called "pelusa". In Swedish they are called "dammråttor" (meaning: dust rats). Cats, bunnies, rats, sheep...seems like everyone knows of these little guys. Not sure if I understand the Danish 'moving men'...unless [...]

let’s play a game

A game?  Sounds fun, huh?  Sounds needed.  Sounds like it might help move things out of the density that seems to have its claws dug in deep lately. There's a so much going on in the world that things seem to be magnified and more emotional than EVER.  I feel overwhelmed and don't know where to begin to do....um, anything!?  In a way I feel like that I should ONLY be focused on fighting, standing up, and showing up.  Reading and educating myself on what the most important things are right now.  Where to go and what to do.  What to say and how to respond. And yet... I still need to take care of myself and my loved ones.  I still need to work and do chores.  I still need to find beauty and love in the world.  I still need to do the work that is for me to do. I can't do it all. Nor can you. Everything is up right now.  We are being called in BIG ways to really show up and create the ways in which we want to be in this world and with each other.  How are we going to do that? Nothing changes without challenge.  Well, we have our challenge now...so what are we gonna do with it?  So far I have been thinking of the big picture- of what is happening in the larger world.  But truly change happens within each of us first.  The growth and progression that needs to be brought forward can't come forth unless we break out of our ruts and find some real true motivation. So let's start with where we are and who we are. This game (which I'll tell you about in a minute) is to find and nurture the things that makes [...]

your head and heart need this from you

I'm certainly feeling the overwhelm and constant ups and downs of my emotions over the past few weeks with the change of 'leadership' in the United States.  There are holes breaking open in my spirit and heart.  Thankfully, moments later they fill up with all the love I DO see.  Only to be spilled out again with the next barrage of hate and greed.  This back and forth is exhausting.  Are you feeling it? So, what to do, Dear Ones?  I start with where I am and what I can control.  That starts with me and my home and loved ones. I'm really feeling the need to anchor myself to my daily practices, my home, eating and cooking delicious and nourishing foods, beauty, inspiration, nurturing relationships, nature, and physical movement.  I need things I can turn to to fill myself back up. To create a strong world within. To build my courage and convictions so I'm to able stretch myself when the time comes. You have to take care of yourself first.  You can't keep up the good work or your BIG work, if you are in a puddle of despair and disorganization. As Boss Ladies [and Warrior Goddesses], we are and will be called to inspire and help others now more than ever.  Everyone's work just got BIGGER.  And it is OH SO EXCITING!  There is a call being sent out that we must answer with our hearts.  This call is to stand for how and what and who we are.  We are not the hate, fear, and divisiveness that is being vomited from some people.  WE ARE NOT THAT.  Let's find ways to be, do, and create that shout this far and wide.  Worldwide, as is being done by so many right now.  The TRUTH is the truth [...]

join the FEAR fan club?!?!

{originally published in Sibyl Magazine- for the spirit and soul of a woman October 2016} My stomach starts turning back flips.  My mind starts playing that old familiar track.  It’s on a loop.  Sometimes even get that bitter burst of adrenaline in my mouth and the racing heart.  I get lost in the story.  I drop right down into that dark chasm of chaos, defeat, and despair.  Where nothing works out and there’s only one solution and it ends in horror. What’s the cause of all this?  Fear. And why, exactly, am I in the Fear Fan Club?!?  Am I crazy?  Let me tell you why FEAR is one of our greatest teachers. It’s a signal to me that I’m out of my comfort zone or out of balance.  Being able to know that I am in either one of these places is good information for me to consider and take inspired action on.  If I’m out of my comfort zone, am I heading to where I want to go?  Or am I going in the wrong direction?  The signs of fear that are coming up are telling me to pay attention-- I’m heading into unfamiliar territory.  Good to know.  But maybe it is a place I want to go to—I just never been there before.  If fear is coming up because I’m out of balance, then I can realign myself with what is really true.  Somehow I’ve gone off track.  I’ve lost trust, love, and my inner knowing somewhere and I need to reconnect. Fear is information from your Being that some sort of action needs to be taken.  It might be to run away from that charging bear or to take direct steps to release you from the stranglehold that fear can have on you.  Fear is a [...]

You’re the uniting force

We as Boss Ladies, Mothers, Dreamers, Partners, Friends, Coworkers, Neighbors, Citizens, Creators, Lovers, Warriors, Mystics and Goddesses have a powerful magic available to us.  We all have it.  You, right now have the potential to practice this magic.  And you do have to practice. Are you wondering what this magic is? Here’s a definition of magic I LOVE: The craft of creating change (or a change in consciousness) that is in alignment with you higher self. It's creating change, transformation, learning, growing and overcoming-what ever you want to call it.  It's releasing habits and limiting ways of thinking that are holding you back. How do you know what your Higher Self wants, desires or even knows?  You learn to listen and see the signs of synchronicity and blessing that are saying—“Yup, you’re going the right way.”  You ask to learn and know the next steps, the best choice, the truth that is within and ready to be brought into being.  You are always on the lookout for the signs, the feelings, the gentle nudges that are helping you create a path within and without so that you are living the desires of your Higher Self. Why would I want to do that? So that you grow and learn.  That is what we came here to do.  To create and do on this physical plane.  To overcome past weaknesses, hurts, fears, beliefs and to help others do their work too. So, Boss Lady, are you using your magic to grow your business and your life? Are you checking in with your Higher Self to see if you’re in step and making the leaps to grow and use all your potential? OR Are you not? Are you just trying to survive, to get the basics done, to not rock the boat? How [...]

building your pride

Have you lost your pride?  Now I have you thinking of it one way...but what if I mean it a totally different way?  What if I was talking about your tribe, your peeps, your fam, your gal pals? How close are they lately?  How much do you support each other?  How much do you BUILD each other up?  And in what ways? Do you have each others' backs?  Would you go into the hunt with them?  Are they the kin that can hold space for you in the ickiest of times? Why am I talking about hunting, peeps and pride?  Have you noticed my BOSS Lady friend?  The lioness has been a companion of mine in my healing work and in my personal growth work for quite some time.  She is the ultimate protector, hunter, loyal, fierce, smart, nurturing matriarch.  She is the BOSS of the PRIDE (a group of lions).  I love to tap into that feeling, that image, that vibration when I need a boost of courage and strength to reach for more, to overcome fear and to feel the strength to keep going.  She rules the pride with a fierce yet loving strength. That's how I view all of you in this Pride.  This Pride full of woman bosses, mothers, creators and dreamers who are reaching, healing, growing and creating more for their life and business.  Women embodying this lioness.  Fierce, loyal, strong, loving, nurturing and courageous hunters. I hope (with all my heart) that I can inspire and support you to be that lioness.  To have power, passion and purpose in your life.  When you have these things--all the other stuff falls more easily into place.   You know the answers.  You know your boundaries.  You know the decision that is in alignment with you and where [...]