#personaldevelopment

What do I say ALL the time?

They say you teach what you LOVE. (not sure if 'they' really say that, BUT I SAID it) They say that the type of people you serve are the ones that you learned the most from. You've been there.  You know the struggles, the desires, the feelings, the passion that is in THE thing you help with.  It's what you're interested in, it's what you would give time to for free, it's the thing that you keeps you curious and leaning in. It's what gets you all jazzed up, feelin' alive, and purposeful/connected. Sit for a second and think a few people, places, items, jobs, etc. that do this for you.  List them out in your journal.  How many of them correlate to the people you serve right now?  How many correlate to the 'work' you do?  How many of them do you see, do, feel, and enjoy most days of the week? OR just maybe who you serve- "your work' -has nothing to do with your job.   I hope they showed up a ton in your life.  I hope that there's some direct links to what you love, who you serve, and your 'work', and what you do. I hope that even if there's not a bunch that there's a few. AND, what if there's not a bunch? Well, then, my lovely one, you have some rearranging to do. How can you incorporate more of the things you love and 'your work' into your life, into your dream? I recently realized that I was set on a path to keep doing what I was doing FOREVER.  And a BIG 'HEC NO!' followed. So, I sat with this.  And then I sat with, "Well, what can I do instead?"  And then I sat with, "Okay, I can do that, but how [...]

When LIFE gets in the way of the DREAM

Many of my clients are women who are entrepreneurs or want to be, therefore, many still have their 'day jobs.'  Many have 'day jobs' and also have a rich, beautiful, & fulfilling life. Many have the 'day job' & just a ho-hum life that feels like it is on a loop.  Wake up, hurry to get ready for work, do work, come home, eat dinner, watch Netflix, have a glass of wine to celebrate your hard work, & then go to bed...and then wake up & do it again.  [HINT: everyone's life is pretty much on a loop, so what's different?] How you show up to WHATEVER your LIFE is IS the thing!  You can have the most boring, shitty job & still be frickin' happy.  You can have the most fun, fabulous, & enviable job & still be bored, sad, frustrated, & hate your life. Showing up is the thing.  For the everyday. For the priorities. For the present. AND THEN THERE'S THE BIG DREAM -- THE NEXT THING -- THE LIFE YOU DESIRE You may have one BIG dream or maybe you have your dreams in many areas of your life. (I recommend both)  So, you might have a health dream, a relationship/family dream, a home dream, a travel dream, a financial dream, a shoe dream, or a career dream.  These are all parts of your life.  You may have a few you are focusing on right now with the others in the back of your mind. GREAT, right? "So, tell me what I don't already know Diana?"  That's what you're asking right about now, yes? What I want to tell you is that sometimes you have the BIG dream--you even know in DETAIL what it looks like, feels like, smells like--and then one day you realize you are not going to get there doing your [...]

Two things: a HUGE announcement and a technique you need to master

In my last note to you, I shared that I had started a new position and made some changes in my day job. Those changes were big and full of huge learning opportunities--on the job, personally, and it has really got me thinking. It got me thinking about what I want my life to be. It got me thinking about where my life was going and where I had been putting it on hold...waiting for the BIG dream and the things I want to just happen. I saw that I was on a path-- a path that didn't want to be on. I saw that I was a path to do the 9-to-5 forever and that is not what I want. I realized, really realized, how I was not showing up for what I want my life to be, what I want to do, and how I want to live. Things don't just happen. YOU have to make them happen. You have to show up. I know you have been following me awhile and you know how always talk about doing your BIG work and doing the big scary thing...about doing the thing that scares you AND that makes you excited-- BOTH at the same time. WELL NOW IT IS TIME FOR ME TO START WALKING MY TALK. SO the BIG announcement! My loves have always been food, animals, nature, trees, discovery, adventure, travel, and cooking. I also know that things are the amazing ways to reconnect to yourself, to drop into yourself, to remember who you are and what you love. To feel alive in your body when you dig into the earth, when you take a bite from a tender leaf right in the garden, when you experience where your food comes from and all the people and [...]

5 daily pillars that are holding me UP right now

This year, 2018, has brought a bunch of changes for me.  I have made decisions and moves that I hadn't even considered at the end of last year. I have been challenged and uprooted a bit by these changes. AND I'm still feeling, considering, and throwing around ideas and plans for even more changes. To no one's surprise...I'm in a 'Wheel of Fortune' year. [ If you're curious about what cycle of growth for the year you're in shown by the wisdom of tarot--you can find out by scheduling a session with me.  It is one of my favorite tools to use to get a perspective on where you're at and why what's going on is going on.] Right now. My mind is awash with the dreams and schemes AND then it falls into the fear, the 'what-ifs', and 'how is that gonna work'. Argh! Since May I have been immersed in my new job [y'all know I have 'day job' as well, right?]  I am managing people in a whole new environment and learning new duties and responsibilities.  That's has been a handful.  Along with the many challenges of raising up the standards of service and responsibility of the crew there was the added tragedy of one of staff members (and friend) passing away by suicide. It hit the staff really hard, of course. The impact of having this tragedy with a staff so new and the stresses of our work already has made me really show up as a leader.  And in ways that I wouldn't have been in the past.  With compassion and with strength. There are so many threads of information that fed into these moments that supported me and showed me the path for me to follow. One of the most spectacular is that at [...]

your power is . . .

My power lies in my passion.   I am working with the above affirmation this morning.  It feels amazing.  It draws forth the best parts of me.  I got this from my coach.  Borrowing it, using it, and rocking it. My power lies in my passion. It reminds me of who I am and also, where I want to go. It also helps me help others.  Because that is my passion.  I love to share what I love.  I often tell stories of my delight at a new food [keto-friendly ice creams], what my dog or cats are up to, or how I am learning and growing...for example; my favorite new podcast or book and what I loved about it.  Sharing our passions is what makes us-US.  We can all have the same experience, but we all experience differently.  You create the story you want to hold. I want you lovelies to remember you have power.  In your passions, in your mind, in your body.  You are in charge.  How you experience things is up to you.  How you command your actions, your thoughts, your beliefs, your habits, your reality, even your body...is up to you.  If you don't feel this now...that's okay...try an experiment...try telling yourself a different story. This will change your mindset which will change your reality.  If trying experiments like this are your thing or if they make you curious--you should totally join my secret Facebook group.  It's called 'Tiny Drops to Start a Ripples'.  It's a place where we share resources, practices, celebrations and challenges on the tiny little practices we work on each day to start big ripples in our lives.  I post a quest on there around once a week and we share our thoughts, what is working for us, and big a-ha's [...]

a few words of preparation to claim the power of summer & ROCK your fall

Here are some ways to gather all the inspiration from the Summer and go into Fall with a plan. Summer is so filling.  It fills us up with yummy foods, time in nature, and lots of activities.  Above is a picture of me on a recent camping trip. I wanted to be in the beautiful outdoors for the Great American Eclipse 2017.  It did not disappoint. I was in the Methow Valley part of Washington State.  It felt like I was nestled in the lap of Gaia. It's a lush valley surrounded by high mountains.  The drive to this amazing valley took me through the gorgeous North Cascade mountains.  Here's a picture of the high peaks. Taking time away to rest, renew, and re-energize also reminded me of  3 things.   I am so in love with going to do and see amazing things. I feel so charged by this.   I am part of a larger picture that I need to claim.  I belong and I have power.   I stay at home too much. :/ What energizes you the most about summer? I did a personal tarot spread as the eclipse was commencing.  It is a super powerful message for me to remember as I move into what's next.  It provided an affirmation and tools for me and my BIG work. It encouraged me to use my voice more to bring in the truth and light to those that are ready to join me in taking action toward their BIG work.  It reminded me of what can hold me back and what sets me free. I used a combo of the Thoth deck and the Animal Spirit deck.  Here's a pic of the spread on my picnic table. So, I have returned and I'm so ready to flow [...]

healing our shadow & stepping into real power

Our Shadow side comes forward to allow us to heal deeply. I have seen the best, most loving, most vulnerable and the absolute worst, hateful, and fearful people this week.  These past few weeks, between the lunar eclipse on the Full Moon (August 7, 2017) and the upcoming Great American Solar Eclipse on August 21, 2017 have really exposed our shadow side here in the US.  And not in just what the goings on in our world, but also as individuals within our own space and person. What shadow has been peeking through lately?  Has it been showing up as frustration, anger, fear, isolation, or avoidance behaviors with yourself or others. Shadow is coming up now because it is ready to be healed. You might be feeling a finality and/or a total intolerance for behaviors or patterns that normally you’d just let go by. This is healing. Enough is enough.  You are now ready to say, “What can I do?”  “What needs to change for me and those close to me?” “How do I move forward with more courage, love, and compassion?” These are awesome questions.  ALWAYS.  They are really crying out to be worked with now. This is what an eclipse does.  It is a catalyst and exposer.  It shows us what isn’t working and collapses it. Healing shadow is deep and tough work.  Dude, I know.  We like to keep that shiz buried and we don’t even want to acknowledge how it shows up in our selves.  It’s shows up in our negative self-talk, our greed, our anger, our ignorance, and in our avoidance. We pretend we didn’t hear that comment. We avoid that tough conversation with our neighbor about them ignoring the boundaries and rules of our community. We allow things to happen that are not in [...]

full moon hangover. time to plant new seeds

Full Moon Hangover. Time to rip out the old and to plant new seeds. Yes, I do mean rip it out.  It feels that final to me.  The things that aren't working, that you don't need, the habits/patterns or addictions that you are SO done with... they gotta GO!  BUH-BYE! This is what I am feeling after the Full Moon on Monday.  In addition to being really tired on Tuesday. I had to take a whole day of downtime to realign and get back into my daily mode of operation.  But I don't want to fall back into it totally!!!  I shifted. I'm ready to rip out what's not working.  Yup.  That's me right now. I want to scream what I want on top of a HIGH mountain.  I want to do it dressed as a warrior goddess or like the Mother of Dragons.  Yes.  Like her.  On a mountain top with two huge dragons right beside me.  I am ready to step into what is coming & I claim it.  Anybody who wants to question or dismiss it--well, they will have me and my dragons to deal with. Want to join me in this vision? Why do I feel so strongly about this RIGHT now? Universal energies are totally aligning in ways that are supporting this energy of new truths and new loves right now.  There has been much build up to this- thousands of years, in fact.  I really feel that what we choose to step into, to pursue, to change, to nourish, to love, to grow, to build, to create...this time right here is the best time to go for it.  You can create it.  Believe it. This Leo Full Moon ( & Lunar Eclipse) and an upcoming Solar Eclipse at the New Moon.  It's being called, [...]

holding up a mirror after 20 years…the power of friends

My old friend came to visit for a few days.  Wow!  You know how awesome that is?  We haven't even been in close touch over the last 20 years.  But when you're friends, you're friends, right?  Her husband thought she was crazy to even suggest coming to visit.  Very confusing to both of us, we thought nothing of it. Making close friends and keeping them is hard in our busy and often far apart lives.  I kinda forgot how awesome it was to have someone that just gets you, that you have a ton of shared memories with, that you have similar interests, values, and outlooks with.  Hard to do today, right? It was curious to see my 20-year younger self through the lens of seeing her again.  To remember things about myself and what I love and who I am and how much of that person is still there.  And then to reflect on that as I plan and create what's next for me is super empowering and strong. Remembering who you are assists you in rising to what's next for you. I loved hearing about how her life has unfolded and become blessed.  It renewed me and my endeavors. Looking back always has me feeling vulnerable.  Who you were. Your choices. Your mistakes. Your heartbreaks and old flames.  All of this is in your face with old friends, but you know what all those things are: lessons, joys, embarrassment, and beauty.  We all have them.  The good and the bad. This is the great thing about true friends who get you and love you no matter what crazy shiz you're up to. It's harder to find these close friends who you know this well as we get older.  I found this great article on 9 ways to catch [...]