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healing our shadow & stepping into real power

Our Shadow side comes forward to allow us to heal deeply. I have seen the best, most loving, most vulnerable and the absolute worst, hateful, and fearful people this week.  These past few weeks, between the lunar eclipse on the Full Moon (August 7, 2017) and the upcoming Great American Solar Eclipse on August 21, 2017 have really exposed our shadow side here in the US.  And not in just what the goings on in our world, but also as individuals within our own space and person. What shadow has been peeking through lately?  Has it been showing up as frustration, anger, fear, isolation, or avoidance behaviors with yourself or others. Shadow is coming up now because it is ready to be healed. You might be feeling a finality and/or a total intolerance for behaviors or patterns that normally you’d just let go by. This is healing. Enough is enough.  You are now ready to say, “What can I do?”  “What needs to change for me and those close to me?” “How do I move forward with more courage, love, and compassion?” These are awesome questions.  ALWAYS.  They are really crying out to be worked with now. This is what an eclipse does.  It is a catalyst and exposer.  It shows us what isn’t working and collapses it. Healing shadow is deep and tough work.  Dude, I know.  We like to keep that shiz buried and we don’t even want to acknowledge how it shows up in our selves.  It’s shows up in our negative self-talk, our greed, our anger, our ignorance, and in our avoidance. We pretend we didn’t hear that comment. We avoid that tough conversation with our neighbor about them ignoring the boundaries and rules of our community. We allow things to happen that are not in [...]

holding up a mirror after 20 years…the power of friends

My old friend came to visit for a few days.  Wow!  You know how awesome that is?  We haven't even been in close touch over the last 20 years.  But when you're friends, you're friends, right?  Her husband thought she was crazy to even suggest coming to visit.  Very confusing to both of us, we thought nothing of it. Making close friends and keeping them is hard in our busy and often far apart lives.  I kinda forgot how awesome it was to have someone that just gets you, that you have a ton of shared memories with, that you have similar interests, values, and outlooks with.  Hard to do today, right? It was curious to see my 20-year younger self through the lens of seeing her again.  To remember things about myself and what I love and who I am and how much of that person is still there.  And then to reflect on that as I plan and create what's next for me is super empowering and strong. Remembering who you are assists you in rising to what's next for you. I loved hearing about how her life has unfolded and become blessed.  It renewed me and my endeavors. Looking back always has me feeling vulnerable.  Who you were. Your choices. Your mistakes. Your heartbreaks and old flames.  All of this is in your face with old friends, but you know what all those things are: lessons, joys, embarrassment, and beauty.  We all have them.  The good and the bad. This is the great thing about true friends who get you and love you no matter what crazy shiz you're up to. It's harder to find these close friends who you know this well as we get older.  I found this great article on 9 ways to catch [...]

just a dust bunny? Or something more?

I love words. I especially love the exploration of words of a different language. What other people call things is intriguing to me. Do you all have this fascination as well? Comment below with your favorite word or phrase from another language. Dust bunnies. You know those little bits of yuck...hair, dust, skin flakes (yikes!) and goodness knows what else, gathering under beds and in dark corners. What a constant nuisance. Can't someone event a dust bunny buster?  Or declare a no gathering zone? I'd love it. Spring is just about here, so Spring Cleaning is on my mind. I am going to dig in and prep and enliven my home for the coming of the light and beauty that the newness Spring brings. There will be dusting, vacuuming, scrubbing, cleaning....and then clearing, smudging, and blessing the energy of the house. Yes, sage will be involved, as well as salt, fire, and water. So, what do you think they call dust bunnies in other places? Here's some info from Wikipedia: In Danish they are called "nullermænd" ("nuller-" from the verb "nulre", meaning to move something between one's fingers, and "-mænd" meaning "men") In Finnish they are called "villakoira" (meaning: wool dog) after the language's nickname for the actual dog breed poodle In French they are called "moutons" (meaning: sheep) In German they are called "Wollmäuse" (meaning: wool mice) In Hungarian they are called "porcica" (meaning: dust cat) In Norwegian they are called "hybelkaniner" (meaning: "lodging bunnies") In Polish they are called "koty" (meaning: cats) In Portuguese they are called "cotão". The Scots word is "oose" In Spanish they are called "pelusa". In Swedish they are called "dammråttor" (meaning: dust rats). Cats, bunnies, rats, sheep...seems like everyone knows of these little guys. Not sure if I understand the Danish 'moving men'...unless [...]

into the wild

I am really feeling the pull of earth and animal energies this year.  I feel really safe, nurtured, and calm when I am just BEing in the forest or even on a walk.  I love to notice the changes in the trees, meadows, birds, and dirt are going through.  I immerse myself in their texture, smell, and especially this time of year-Winter, their starkness. I think this is due to the ever-shifting nature of our worldly world...we need a place to anchor to.  Being in Nature has always allowed me to go deeper into myself.  If you are feeling isolated or lost  with the current situation and the energy of too much worldliness...then retreat into nature and come out stronger for it. I have felt the companionship of a few particular animal energies this year so far.  Oddly, last year it was 'Donkey'.  I learned a bunch from these sturdy, helpful, and stubborn animals.  This year it is the wild and strong 'Wolf' energy.  The other is the beautiful and healing bird the 'Flicker'. Flickers are in the woodpecker family and are held sacred by many.  There feathers are used by healers.  I have a few.  I love them!  The quill part is orange and then I have some with the polka dots.  Totally cool.  I have incorporated them into healing tools.  A rattle and a feather smudge wand  used to break up stagnant energy and cleanse the energy field. Feathers have big medicine to offer. Ever since the December Moon Cycle I have been feeling Wolf energy.  And it has been showing up in my dreams and many other places. When I am curious about animal energies I encounter or feel, I go to Ted Andrews book called "Animal Speak- The Spiritual & Magical Powers of Creatures Great & [...]

your head and heart need this from you

I'm certainly feeling the overwhelm and constant ups and downs of my emotions over the past few weeks with the change of 'leadership' in the United States.  There are holes breaking open in my spirit and heart.  Thankfully, moments later they fill up with all the love I DO see.  Only to be spilled out again with the next barrage of hate and greed.  This back and forth is exhausting.  Are you feeling it? So, what to do, Dear Ones?  I start with where I am and what I can control.  That starts with me and my home and loved ones. I'm really feeling the need to anchor myself to my daily practices, my home, eating and cooking delicious and nourishing foods, beauty, inspiration, nurturing relationships, nature, and physical movement.  I need things I can turn to to fill myself back up. To create a strong world within. To build my courage and convictions so I'm to able stretch myself when the time comes. You have to take care of yourself first.  You can't keep up the good work or your BIG work, if you are in a puddle of despair and disorganization. As Boss Ladies [and Warrior Goddesses], we are and will be called to inspire and help others now more than ever.  Everyone's work just got BIGGER.  And it is OH SO EXCITING!  There is a call being sent out that we must answer with our hearts.  This call is to stand for how and what and who we are.  We are not the hate, fear, and divisiveness that is being vomited from some people.  WE ARE NOT THAT.  Let's find ways to be, do, and create that shout this far and wide.  Worldwide, as is being done by so many right now.  The TRUTH is the truth [...]

building your pride

Have you lost your pride?  Now I have you thinking of it one way...but what if I mean it a totally different way?  What if I was talking about your tribe, your peeps, your fam, your gal pals? How close are they lately?  How much do you support each other?  How much do you BUILD each other up?  And in what ways? Do you have each others' backs?  Would you go into the hunt with them?  Are they the kin that can hold space for you in the ickiest of times? Why am I talking about hunting, peeps and pride?  Have you noticed my BOSS Lady friend?  The lioness has been a companion of mine in my healing work and in my personal growth work for quite some time.  She is the ultimate protector, hunter, loyal, fierce, smart, nurturing matriarch.  She is the BOSS of the PRIDE (a group of lions).  I love to tap into that feeling, that image, that vibration when I need a boost of courage and strength to reach for more, to overcome fear and to feel the strength to keep going.  She rules the pride with a fierce yet loving strength. That's how I view all of you in this Pride.  This Pride full of woman bosses, mothers, creators and dreamers who are reaching, healing, growing and creating more for their life and business.  Women embodying this lioness.  Fierce, loyal, strong, loving, nurturing and courageous hunters. I hope (with all my heart) that I can inspire and support you to be that lioness.  To have power, passion and purpose in your life.  When you have these things--all the other stuff falls more easily into place.   You know the answers.  You know your boundaries.  You know the decision that is in alignment with you and where [...]

The Boss Lady who just gives it away…who me?

When you want to help people and you know you can give them insight, tools or healing that can improve their lives in awesome ways, then it becomes a challenge to know when it is appropriate to share this.  As a boss lady...hopefully the lines are more clear. BUT sometimes there's the potential for you (well, me...let's be honest) to want to just give it all away.  I was in a real quandary the other day... I had a meeting set up to do a no cost discovery session over Skype.  I looked over the challenges and needs my boss lady friend was having and through some intuitive work with the Tarot cards I came up with some really great information and ways she could start to get some clarity and the best tools for her to start to get some relief with.  Awesome!  So ready to share it and to offer my continued assistance as she did this big work for her and her business. BUT we didn't get to connect to that day.  I won't lie.  I was disappointed.  Let down.  And although I understand why the connection didn't happen...I wanted to send all the insights and tools and everything in an email to her anyway.  I wanted to send it to her because it was super relevant, super clear and super valuable.  It would have given her ideas on how to approach those challenges and why they are up for her right now.  Would it be okay just to send it, maybe it could still have the same effect for her...? BUT is this a smart way for me honor the services of my business, to value my self, to value my energy, to value my work...or am I just giving it a way?  Duh, it would [...]

top 12 energy zapping ways of a boss lady

We all have habits, practices and systems that we fall back on when we get stressed, frustrated or overwhelmed. Hopefully, most of them contribute to bringing us in to balance and health so that we are ready to tackle the next project, but truthfully...many of them just mask the problem.  As boss ladies who want to not only be successful, but also be healthy, strong and passionate for all the other things we dream of doing in our lives and in our biz we need a foundation that reflects our passion, power and purpose.  It should be a foundation that allows you to master your best asset-YOU! Here are the top energy zappers that many boss ladies fall victim to: Over-giving of your time and energy. Not establishing boundaries for you and for your biz.  What's okay, what's not? How much time and when?  How much money? Who to let in? Not honoring these set boundaries.  You have to practice.  No compromises. Not connecting to your inner source (force) for guidance support.  Your energy system, your essence, your intuition and your truth. Not having a ridiculous self-care routine.  Healthy foods, good sleep, relaxation, body and energy care (reiki, meditation, massage, chakra exercises, etc.) Using food, caffeine, drugs, alcohol, shopping, binge TV watching and other not-so-healthy indulgences or addictions to supposedly replenish and return to balance. Feeling overly responsible for others work, process or efforts. Continuing to use practices, systems or products that aren't in alignment with your inner essence, truth and knowing (your inner drop) OR sustainable. Not having a clear image of the passion and purpose of your biz and your role in it. Sacrificing your energy when you know will suffer from it. Ie. Using yourself too much, instead of finding other solutions. Not having a lusciously full [...]

tell me truths

[originally written for Sibyl Magazine June 2016] I say some pretty horrendous things, some totally untrue things and some downright nasty things to myself.  I’m sure I see some heads nodding in understanding out there.  Why do we say these hurtful things to our beautiful hearts?   Very often I’m not consciously aware of them.  They are so far in the background, like a tape just running on loop, I don’t even hear them.  I AM developing more awareness, so I am beginning to hear them more and more.  The awesome thing is that then I can unpack the story I’m telling myself and then, and only then can I begin heal and grow beyond that limiting belief that was lurking in the background.   I totally shocked myself the other day.  I was planning and setting goals--big goals and plans—and I heard myself say, “It won’t work.”  WHAT?!  How dare I sabotage myself even before getting it off the ground.   What did I do?  I used my tools. I practice affirmations, manifesting intentions and goals and I work with the cycles of the moon to support these.  I say clearly what I want.  When I hear a negative thought I say, “NO” and reinforce that which I DO want.  I also work with my tarot cards to get support and insight into what is behind the negative thought or a different way of seeing how to proceed.  This gives me a deeper understanding and guidance.  I have also started using “I AM” statements.  Powerful combatants to that negative self-talk and limiting beliefs.  “I AM a healer.”  “I AM in control of my time.”  I AM healthy and strong.”  “I AM manifesting platforms for abundance.” I have a morning practice as well listing what I am grateful for and [...]

a pinch of this

{previously published in Sibyl Magazine  (for the Spirit & Soul of Women) May 2016} Sometimes in the act of creating our lives it looks like a big chaotic mess. Other times we feel that our actions on what we add and what we take out are very deliberate. And then there are those times where you feel like nothing is happening. I read tarot cards for others and for myself for personal development and insight. It’s super interesting for me to look at what yearly cycle I’m in (according to the numerology of the Major Arcana). It can be helpful in learning how to navigate and plan as I go through the year. Last year was a Chariot year and this year is an Adjustment year for me. Chariot years are all about movement while keeping your calm center. That was definitely true for me. I took lots of actions to expand my growth and potential both personally and in my business. This year is an Adjustment year-it’s about bringing in all that you activated the previous year in practical real ways in your daily life. All while coming back to balance and integrating the new skills and ways of being. This can come down to the subtle, as in how I think about things, how I communicate or in concrete ways as in what habits to release and which ones to nourish.   The Adjustment year is one of fine tuning. A pinch of this- a bit more of that or just take that out. The sometimes overwhelming chaos of the Chariot year is coming into wholeness and form. I can see what it is all distilling down to and what actions to take to fully realize the new insights, actions and learning.   This mix (creation) of your [...]