women

Here I AM

I couldn’t always say that. I was hiding for a long time. Introverts do that. I hid behind my job, my wine glass, the door, and the immense space between me and everyone else. I took on masks and played parts just so I didn’t have to show up as me.  I pretended to be the busy, quirky boss lady of the restaurant…a part that I could play along with.  I was ‘happy’ to be that—until ‘that’ didn’t work anymore.  I finally pushed myself so far that I crashed HARD and couldn’t be that person anymore.  One day I just quit being the boss lady of that neighborhood restaurant and didn’t know what I was going to do or who I was to be next. Thank goodness for it!  I unraveled into a heap of misery, anxiety, and confusion at the door of a healer. It’s been a long time since that first Reiki session with Elizabeth Schermer--  now my teacher and mentor. Yet it is still so vivid in my mind.  In that session, she told me I had BIG work to do—the path was opened though I didn’t know it then. For a long time, I wondered—what is this BIG work she’s talking about? I didn’t find it overnight.  I discovered and nourished it through many energy sessions, tarot card classes, 6+ years of Mystery School immersion, Reiki attunements, plant medicine studies, Qabalah studies, Muna-Ki rites, and an epic spiritual journey to the ancient land of Egypt and its sacred sites.  From these teachings, I created a connection and a relationship to my spirit and to the energies that support us- in all ways -  always. I know the magic I have and can create. Hieee! I'm Diana. I AM a Spiritual Coach and Shamanic Alchemy Reiki Master—my [...]

My Freedom is TOO much

Okay, so you know how I sold everything, quit my job of 11 years, and moved into my tiny home on wheels to go ALL in on being and doing my coaching and healing work?  Or as I say changing my life.  Well, with that comes the open schedule, the less structure, the more free time, the endless possibilities of what I could/should be doing, right?  What should I do? How should I do it?   Should I post on social media today? Should I do a oracle reading? How can I help more people? What am I going to write about? What should I do first? What is my inspiration/message today? What time do I eat, sleep, walk the dog, shower, and in what order?  So, many things that I get to DECIDE.  And sometimes that seems so overwhelming that I freeze and just do this and that without really doing things really intentionally or productively. All these things are up for me. I get to make my day go how I want.  But what is it I want? What will get me to where I want to be?  (That's an interesting question that just flowed out) What is my day for?  Is it for me? Is it for my work? Is it to get results? OR is it to BE?  To BE what? To be at peace? To make a difference? To keep things moving forward? To get money in the bank? To get clients to help? To take care of my life, all the details to just live, stay alive?  THIS is a pretty big question--"What is my day for?" I am going to sit with this question. I do think it is a bit of all these things. BUT I want to know the underlying motivation/vibration of [...]

healing our shadow & stepping into real power

Our Shadow side comes forward to allow us to heal deeply. I have seen the best, most loving, most vulnerable and the absolute worst, hateful, and fearful people this week.  These past few weeks, between the lunar eclipse on the Full Moon (August 7, 2017) and the upcoming Great American Solar Eclipse on August 21, 2017 have really exposed our shadow side here in the US.  And not in just what the goings on in our world, but also as individuals within our own space and person. What shadow has been peeking through lately?  Has it been showing up as frustration, anger, fear, isolation, or avoidance behaviors with yourself or others. Shadow is coming up now because it is ready to be healed. You might be feeling a finality and/or a total intolerance for behaviors or patterns that normally you’d just let go by. This is healing. Enough is enough.  You are now ready to say, “What can I do?”  “What needs to change for me and those close to me?” “How do I move forward with more courage, love, and compassion?” These are awesome questions.  ALWAYS.  They are really crying out to be worked with now. This is what an eclipse does.  It is a catalyst and exposer.  It shows us what isn’t working and collapses it. Healing shadow is deep and tough work.  Dude, I know.  We like to keep that shiz buried and we don’t even want to acknowledge how it shows up in our selves.  It’s shows up in our negative self-talk, our greed, our anger, our ignorance, and in our avoidance. We pretend we didn’t hear that comment. We avoid that tough conversation with our neighbor about them ignoring the boundaries and rules of our community. We allow things to happen that are not in [...]

holding up a mirror after 20 years…the power of friends

My old friend came to visit for a few days.  Wow!  You know how awesome that is?  We haven't even been in close touch over the last 20 years.  But when you're friends, you're friends, right?  Her husband thought she was crazy to even suggest coming to visit.  Very confusing to both of us, we thought nothing of it. Making close friends and keeping them is hard in our busy and often far apart lives.  I kinda forgot how awesome it was to have someone that just gets you, that you have a ton of shared memories with, that you have similar interests, values, and outlooks with.  Hard to do today, right? It was curious to see my 20-year younger self through the lens of seeing her again.  To remember things about myself and what I love and who I am and how much of that person is still there.  And then to reflect on that as I plan and create what's next for me is super empowering and strong. Remembering who you are assists you in rising to what's next for you. I loved hearing about how her life has unfolded and become blessed.  It renewed me and my endeavors. Looking back always has me feeling vulnerable.  Who you were. Your choices. Your mistakes. Your heartbreaks and old flames.  All of this is in your face with old friends, but you know what all those things are: lessons, joys, embarrassment, and beauty.  We all have them.  The good and the bad. This is the great thing about true friends who get you and love you no matter what crazy shiz you're up to. It's harder to find these close friends who you know this well as we get older.  I found this great article on 9 ways to catch [...]

Top 10 essentials for my luscious self–and yours too!

Hello, Lovelies! I sat down and made a list of the things in my life that I really cherish and that make me feel luscious.  Sacred, divine, taken care of, nurtured...  Think of this as your Holiday gift list to yourself.  Or pass it on to someone to gift them to you.  Or you can gift these things to your best gal pals. { Please, note when you click through and purchase I may receive a small fee.  Thanks! } 1.  L O N G  HOT Baths.  Need I say more.  Salvation. Relaxation. Warmth. Renewal. Add this to the bath to help to ease your stress and release your bliss buttons.  The salts help absorb negative energy. 2. The Tarot Handbook by Angeles Arrien -- My go-to reference book for learning the essentials of reading the Thoth Deck Tarot Cards. 3.  And here are the cards...The Thoth Tarot Deck (Large format)  My personal tool for inner understanding, communication, seeing the bigger picture and discovering new insights to my life.  The best way I can instantly get in touch with the truth of what's going on inside.  Drawing a card daily is like having a partner with you as you navigate your day with its message. 4. Fun, warm, and luscious slippers. I love my slippers.  My feet tend to be cold, so I wear mine ALL the time.  Love them!  Here are some fun ones to check out.  5. Y'all know I'm a foodie AND I love to inspire my life through the guidance of the Moon phases, so I'm totally intrigued to delve into this cookbook.  (Don't have it yet, but in 'looking inside', I can't wait to grab it!) 6.  My favorite essential oil for immediate connection to my center.  Grounding and uplifting and calming.  Sacred space within [...]

You’re the uniting force

We as Boss Ladies, Mothers, Dreamers, Partners, Friends, Coworkers, Neighbors, Citizens, Creators, Lovers, Warriors, Mystics and Goddesses have a powerful magic available to us.  We all have it.  You, right now have the potential to practice this magic.  And you do have to practice. Are you wondering what this magic is? Here’s a definition of magic I LOVE: The craft of creating change (or a change in consciousness) that is in alignment with you higher self. It's creating change, transformation, learning, growing and overcoming-what ever you want to call it.  It's releasing habits and limiting ways of thinking that are holding you back. How do you know what your Higher Self wants, desires or even knows?  You learn to listen and see the signs of synchronicity and blessing that are saying—“Yup, you’re going the right way.”  You ask to learn and know the next steps, the best choice, the truth that is within and ready to be brought into being.  You are always on the lookout for the signs, the feelings, the gentle nudges that are helping you create a path within and without so that you are living the desires of your Higher Self. Why would I want to do that? So that you grow and learn.  That is what we came here to do.  To create and do on this physical plane.  To overcome past weaknesses, hurts, fears, beliefs and to help others do their work too. So, Boss Lady, are you using your magic to grow your business and your life? Are you checking in with your Higher Self to see if you’re in step and making the leaps to grow and use all your potential? OR Are you not? Are you just trying to survive, to get the basics done, to not rock the boat? How [...]

building your pride

Have you lost your pride?  Now I have you thinking of it one way...but what if I mean it a totally different way?  What if I was talking about your tribe, your peeps, your fam, your gal pals? How close are they lately?  How much do you support each other?  How much do you BUILD each other up?  And in what ways? Do you have each others' backs?  Would you go into the hunt with them?  Are they the kin that can hold space for you in the ickiest of times? Why am I talking about hunting, peeps and pride?  Have you noticed my BOSS Lady friend?  The lioness has been a companion of mine in my healing work and in my personal growth work for quite some time.  She is the ultimate protector, hunter, loyal, fierce, smart, nurturing matriarch.  She is the BOSS of the PRIDE (a group of lions).  I love to tap into that feeling, that image, that vibration when I need a boost of courage and strength to reach for more, to overcome fear and to feel the strength to keep going.  She rules the pride with a fierce yet loving strength. That's how I view all of you in this Pride.  This Pride full of woman bosses, mothers, creators and dreamers who are reaching, healing, growing and creating more for their life and business.  Women embodying this lioness.  Fierce, loyal, strong, loving, nurturing and courageous hunters. I hope (with all my heart) that I can inspire and support you to be that lioness.  To have power, passion and purpose in your life.  When you have these things--all the other stuff falls more easily into place.   You know the answers.  You know your boundaries.  You know the decision that is in alignment with you and where [...]

The Boss Lady who just gives it away…who me?

When you want to help people and you know you can give them insight, tools or healing that can improve their lives in awesome ways, then it becomes a challenge to know when it is appropriate to share this.  As a boss lady...hopefully the lines are more clear. BUT sometimes there's the potential for you (well, me...let's be honest) to want to just give it all away.  I was in a real quandary the other day... I had a meeting set up to do a no cost discovery session over Skype.  I looked over the challenges and needs my boss lady friend was having and through some intuitive work with the Tarot cards I came up with some really great information and ways she could start to get some clarity and the best tools for her to start to get some relief with.  Awesome!  So ready to share it and to offer my continued assistance as she did this big work for her and her business. BUT we didn't get to connect to that day.  I won't lie.  I was disappointed.  Let down.  And although I understand why the connection didn't happen...I wanted to send all the insights and tools and everything in an email to her anyway.  I wanted to send it to her because it was super relevant, super clear and super valuable.  It would have given her ideas on how to approach those challenges and why they are up for her right now.  Would it be okay just to send it, maybe it could still have the same effect for her...? BUT is this a smart way for me honor the services of my business, to value my self, to value my energy, to value my work...or am I just giving it a way?  Duh, it would [...]

top 12 energy zapping ways of a boss lady

We all have habits, practices and systems that we fall back on when we get stressed, frustrated or overwhelmed. Hopefully, most of them contribute to bringing us in to balance and health so that we are ready to tackle the next project, but truthfully...many of them just mask the problem.  As boss ladies who want to not only be successful, but also be healthy, strong and passionate for all the other things we dream of doing in our lives and in our biz we need a foundation that reflects our passion, power and purpose.  It should be a foundation that allows you to master your best asset-YOU! Here are the top energy zappers that many boss ladies fall victim to: Over-giving of your time and energy. Not establishing boundaries for you and for your biz.  What's okay, what's not? How much time and when?  How much money? Who to let in? Not honoring these set boundaries.  You have to practice.  No compromises. Not connecting to your inner source (force) for guidance support.  Your energy system, your essence, your intuition and your truth. Not having a ridiculous self-care routine.  Healthy foods, good sleep, relaxation, body and energy care (reiki, meditation, massage, chakra exercises, etc.) Using food, caffeine, drugs, alcohol, shopping, binge TV watching and other not-so-healthy indulgences or addictions to supposedly replenish and return to balance. Feeling overly responsible for others work, process or efforts. Continuing to use practices, systems or products that aren't in alignment with your inner essence, truth and knowing (your inner drop) OR sustainable. Not having a clear image of the passion and purpose of your biz and your role in it. Sacrificing your energy when you know will suffer from it. Ie. Using yourself too much, instead of finding other solutions. Not having a lusciously full [...]

a pinch of this

{previously published in Sibyl Magazine  (for the Spirit & Soul of Women) May 2016} Sometimes in the act of creating our lives it looks like a big chaotic mess. Other times we feel that our actions on what we add and what we take out are very deliberate. And then there are those times where you feel like nothing is happening. I read tarot cards for others and for myself for personal development and insight. It’s super interesting for me to look at what yearly cycle I’m in (according to the numerology of the Major Arcana). It can be helpful in learning how to navigate and plan as I go through the year. Last year was a Chariot year and this year is an Adjustment year for me. Chariot years are all about movement while keeping your calm center. That was definitely true for me. I took lots of actions to expand my growth and potential both personally and in my business. This year is an Adjustment year-it’s about bringing in all that you activated the previous year in practical real ways in your daily life. All while coming back to balance and integrating the new skills and ways of being. This can come down to the subtle, as in how I think about things, how I communicate or in concrete ways as in what habits to release and which ones to nourish.   The Adjustment year is one of fine tuning. A pinch of this- a bit more of that or just take that out. The sometimes overwhelming chaos of the Chariot year is coming into wholeness and form. I can see what it is all distilling down to and what actions to take to fully realize the new insights, actions and learning.   This mix (creation) of your [...]