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Here I AM

I couldn’t always say that. I was hiding for a long time. Introverts do that. I hid behind my job, my wine glass, the door, and the immense space between me and everyone else. I took on masks and played parts just so I didn’t have to show up as me.  I pretended to be the busy, quirky boss lady of the restaurant…a part that I could play along with.  I was ‘happy’ to be that—until ‘that’ didn’t work anymore.  I finally pushed myself so far that I crashed HARD and couldn’t be that person anymore.  One day I just quit being the boss lady of that neighborhood restaurant and didn’t know what I was going to do or who I was to be next. Thank goodness for it!  I unraveled into a heap of misery, anxiety, and confusion at the door of a healer. It’s been a long time since that first Reiki session with Elizabeth Schermer--  now my teacher and mentor. Yet it is still so vivid in my mind.  In that session, she told me I had BIG work to do—the path was opened though I didn’t know it then. For a long time, I wondered—what is this BIG work she’s talking about? I didn’t find it overnight.  I discovered and nourished it through many energy sessions, tarot card classes, 6+ years of Mystery School immersion, Reiki attunements, plant medicine studies, Qabalah studies, Muna-Ki rites, and an epic spiritual journey to the ancient land of Egypt and its sacred sites.  From these teachings, I created a connection and a relationship to my spirit and to the energies that support us- in all ways -  always. I know the magic I have and can create. Hieee! I'm Diana. I AM a Spiritual Coach and Shamanic Alchemy Reiki Master—my [...]

My Freedom is TOO much

Okay, so you know how I sold everything, quit my job of 11 years, and moved into my tiny home on wheels to go ALL in on being and doing my coaching and healing work?  Or as I say changing my life.  Well, with that comes the open schedule, the less structure, the more free time, the endless possibilities of what I could/should be doing, right?  What should I do? How should I do it?   Should I post on social media today? Should I do a oracle reading? How can I help more people? What am I going to write about? What should I do first? What is my inspiration/message today? What time do I eat, sleep, walk the dog, shower, and in what order?  So, many things that I get to DECIDE.  And sometimes that seems so overwhelming that I freeze and just do this and that without really doing things really intentionally or productively. All these things are up for me. I get to make my day go how I want.  But what is it I want? What will get me to where I want to be?  (That's an interesting question that just flowed out) What is my day for?  Is it for me? Is it for my work? Is it to get results? OR is it to BE?  To BE what? To be at peace? To make a difference? To keep things moving forward? To get money in the bank? To get clients to help? To take care of my life, all the details to just live, stay alive?  THIS is a pretty big question--"What is my day for?" I am going to sit with this question. I do think it is a bit of all these things. BUT I want to know the underlying motivation/vibration of [...]

What do I say ALL the time?

They say you teach what you LOVE. (not sure if 'they' really say that, BUT I SAID it) They say that the type of people you serve are the ones that you learned the most from. You've been there.  You know the struggles, the desires, the feelings, the passion that is in THE thing you help with.  It's what you're interested in, it's what you would give time to for free, it's the thing that you keeps you curious and leaning in. It's what gets you all jazzed up, feelin' alive, and purposeful/connected. Sit for a second and think a few people, places, items, jobs, etc. that do this for you.  List them out in your journal.  How many of them correlate to the people you serve right now?  How many correlate to the 'work' you do?  How many of them do you see, do, feel, and enjoy most days of the week? OR just maybe who you serve- "your work' -has nothing to do with your job.   I hope they showed up a ton in your life.  I hope that there's some direct links to what you love, who you serve, and your 'work', and what you do. I hope that even if there's not a bunch that there's a few. AND, what if there's not a bunch? Well, then, my lovely one, you have some rearranging to do. How can you incorporate more of the things you love and 'your work' into your life, into your dream? I recently realized that I was set on a path to keep doing what I was doing FOREVER.  And a BIG 'HEC NO!' followed. So, I sat with this.  And then I sat with, "Well, what can I do instead?"  And then I sat with, "Okay, I can do that, but how [...]

When LIFE gets in the way of the DREAM

Many of my clients are women who are entrepreneurs or want to be, therefore, many still have their 'day jobs.'  Many have 'day jobs' and also have a rich, beautiful, & fulfilling life. Many have the 'day job' & just a ho-hum life that feels like it is on a loop.  Wake up, hurry to get ready for work, do work, come home, eat dinner, watch Netflix, have a glass of wine to celebrate your hard work, & then go to bed...and then wake up & do it again.  [HINT: everyone's life is pretty much on a loop, so what's different?] How you show up to WHATEVER your LIFE is IS the thing!  You can have the most boring, shitty job & still be frickin' happy.  You can have the most fun, fabulous, & enviable job & still be bored, sad, frustrated, & hate your life. Showing up is the thing.  For the everyday. For the priorities. For the present. AND THEN THERE'S THE BIG DREAM -- THE NEXT THING -- THE LIFE YOU DESIRE You may have one BIG dream or maybe you have your dreams in many areas of your life. (I recommend both)  So, you might have a health dream, a relationship/family dream, a home dream, a travel dream, a financial dream, a shoe dream, or a career dream.  These are all parts of your life.  You may have a few you are focusing on right now with the others in the back of your mind. GREAT, right? "So, tell me what I don't already know Diana?"  That's what you're asking right about now, yes? What I want to tell you is that sometimes you have the BIG dream--you even know in DETAIL what it looks like, feels like, smells like--and then one day you realize you are not going to get there doing your [...]

I did it! I changed my Life.

I did it! It's been awhile since you all have heard from me, yes?  I'll get into the reasons why on that in a minute, but first I want you to celebrate with me. I DID IT!!!!! I changed my life. Last year was full of changes for me and that's a BIG part of why you haven't heard from me.  I took a new position at the old 9-to-5 J-O-B and it left me very little time and energy to put to my business.  It was different hours and more responsibility. It was closer to home, which I loved, but it was robbing me of the juice I needed to devote to this project. It was a 'Wheel of Fortune' year for me (according to the Tarot Growth Cycle).  In a Wheel of Fortune year there can be many changes.  So, that happened.  I changed jobs and location...and I thought that was the change of the year...BUT NO! There was more change to come. I realized a few months after the job change that I had set myself on a path to do that work forever. WAIT! WHAAAT????  Oh no, no.  That's not my dream.  That's not the plan. Since starting this business of spiritual coaching and healing I have always talked about "Doing Your BIG Work" "Following Your Inner Drop" and "Doing the BIG Scary Thing." Well, it is time for me to put my money where my mouth is, right? So- it got me to thinking...'Di, what is THE plan then?  How are we going to get to the dream, the passion, the life you desire????'   When these questions came up it made me realize how stuck I was. How I let my life slide into the normal day-to-day, the busy-ness of modern life...I had let go [...]

Two things: a HUGE announcement and a technique you need to master

In my last note to you, I shared that I had started a new position and made some changes in my day job. Those changes were big and full of huge learning opportunities--on the job, personally, and it has really got me thinking. It got me thinking about what I want my life to be. It got me thinking about where my life was going and where I had been putting it on hold...waiting for the BIG dream and the things I want to just happen. I saw that I was on a path-- a path that didn't want to be on. I saw that I was a path to do the 9-to-5 forever and that is not what I want. I realized, really realized, how I was not showing up for what I want my life to be, what I want to do, and how I want to live. Things don't just happen. YOU have to make them happen. You have to show up. I know you have been following me awhile and you know how always talk about doing your BIG work and doing the big scary thing...about doing the thing that scares you AND that makes you excited-- BOTH at the same time. WELL NOW IT IS TIME FOR ME TO START WALKING MY TALK. SO the BIG announcement! My loves have always been food, animals, nature, trees, discovery, adventure, travel, and cooking. I also know that things are the amazing ways to reconnect to yourself, to drop into yourself, to remember who you are and what you love. To feel alive in your body when you dig into the earth, when you take a bite from a tender leaf right in the garden, when you experience where your food comes from and all the people and [...]

5 daily pillars that are holding me UP right now

This year, 2018, has brought a bunch of changes for me.  I have made decisions and moves that I hadn't even considered at the end of last year. I have been challenged and uprooted a bit by these changes. AND I'm still feeling, considering, and throwing around ideas and plans for even more changes. To no one's surprise...I'm in a 'Wheel of Fortune' year. [ If you're curious about what cycle of growth for the year you're in shown by the wisdom of tarot--you can find out by scheduling a session with me.  It is one of my favorite tools to use to get a perspective on where you're at and why what's going on is going on.] Right now. My mind is awash with the dreams and schemes AND then it falls into the fear, the 'what-ifs', and 'how is that gonna work'. Argh! Since May I have been immersed in my new job [y'all know I have 'day job' as well, right?]  I am managing people in a whole new environment and learning new duties and responsibilities.  That's has been a handful.  Along with the many challenges of raising up the standards of service and responsibility of the crew there was the added tragedy of one of staff members (and friend) passing away by suicide. It hit the staff really hard, of course. The impact of having this tragedy with a staff so new and the stresses of our work already has made me really show up as a leader.  And in ways that I wouldn't have been in the past.  With compassion and with strength. There are so many threads of information that fed into these moments that supported me and showed me the path for me to follow. One of the most spectacular is that at [...]

your power is . . .

My power lies in my passion.   I am working with the above affirmation this morning.  It feels amazing.  It draws forth the best parts of me.  I got this from my coach.  Borrowing it, using it, and rocking it. My power lies in my passion. It reminds me of who I am and also, where I want to go. It also helps me help others.  Because that is my passion.  I love to share what I love.  I often tell stories of my delight at a new food [keto-friendly ice creams], what my dog or cats are up to, or how I am learning and growing...for example; my favorite new podcast or book and what I loved about it.  Sharing our passions is what makes us-US.  We can all have the same experience, but we all experience differently.  You create the story you want to hold. I want you lovelies to remember you have power.  In your passions, in your mind, in your body.  You are in charge.  How you experience things is up to you.  How you command your actions, your thoughts, your beliefs, your habits, your reality, even your body...is up to you.  If you don't feel this now...that's okay...try an experiment...try telling yourself a different story. This will change your mindset which will change your reality.  If trying experiments like this are your thing or if they make you curious--you should totally join my secret Facebook group.  It's called 'Tiny Drops to Start a Ripples'.  It's a place where we share resources, practices, celebrations and challenges on the tiny little practices we work on each day to start big ripples in our lives.  I post a quest on there around once a week and we share our thoughts, what is working for us, and big a-ha's [...]

put your hands together and tell me what you are grateful for

I've been thinking about prayer a bunch lately.  Who does it?  Why?  How?  Should I be doing it?  Do I actually do it and not recognize it as such? Is it only for 'religious' people? Do you only pray to God with a capital "G"? What's the purpose? So many questions, right? I do know there are different types of prayer.  There's what I would call 'ritual' prayer.  Those memorized prayers that everyone does for a specific need or purpose.  There's the just-before-bed-on-your-knees prayer.  There's the blessing of the food before dinner prayer.  There are a litany of these everyday and special occasion prayers.  Mass, Hail Mary's, baptism, last rites, Passover, sacrament, etc. BUT the kinda prayer that I've been curious about is the one that comes from my inner essence (my inner drop) and is directed at--what??  Where is it going?  Why do it? It's the kinda prayer that solidifies and puts to order the challenges, wishes, needs, and requests that just kinda need a space to go. I'm hashing this out in my spirit right now.  Not because I'm fighting it, but because I want to discover more about it and how we frail little humans use it and need it. I'm coming across many podcasts, books, and speakers that weave their prayers into all they do and they speak about it so wonderfully. It really hits me when they share their prayers.  I feel the truth of it...of their belief and knowing of it to be powerful and necessary. I am in total L O V E with Anne Lamott.  Saint Anne, as I recently heard her called.  I know it is true.  Such wisdom and so witty with words.  Her book of the only 3 prayers you ever need: Help, Thanks, and Wow.  Says it all, [...]

just a dust bunny? Or something more?

I love words. I especially love the exploration of words of a different language. What other people call things is intriguing to me. Do you all have this fascination as well? Comment below with your favorite word or phrase from another language. Dust bunnies. You know those little bits of yuck...hair, dust, skin flakes (yikes!) and goodness knows what else, gathering under beds and in dark corners. What a constant nuisance. Can't someone event a dust bunny buster?  Or declare a no gathering zone? I'd love it. Spring is just about here, so Spring Cleaning is on my mind. I am going to dig in and prep and enliven my home for the coming of the light and beauty that the newness Spring brings. There will be dusting, vacuuming, scrubbing, cleaning....and then clearing, smudging, and blessing the energy of the house. Yes, sage will be involved, as well as salt, fire, and water. So, what do you think they call dust bunnies in other places? Here's some info from Wikipedia: In Danish they are called "nullermænd" ("nuller-" from the verb "nulre", meaning to move something between one's fingers, and "-mænd" meaning "men") In Finnish they are called "villakoira" (meaning: wool dog) after the language's nickname for the actual dog breed poodle In French they are called "moutons" (meaning: sheep) In German they are called "Wollmäuse" (meaning: wool mice) In Hungarian they are called "porcica" (meaning: dust cat) In Norwegian they are called "hybelkaniner" (meaning: "lodging bunnies") In Polish they are called "koty" (meaning: cats) In Portuguese they are called "cotão". The Scots word is "oose" In Spanish they are called "pelusa". In Swedish they are called "dammråttor" (meaning: dust rats). Cats, bunnies, rats, sheep...seems like everyone knows of these little guys. Not sure if I understand the Danish 'moving men'...unless [...]